United for Democracy

Explanation based on the four phases of a narcissistic relationship

Introduction

Donald John Trump is president of the United States of America. He won the elections in 2016 and has never let go of the role of president. I will explain why he behaves the way he does based on my knowledge of narcissistic behavior and the narcissistic script. That script is a four-stage tactic that a narcissist uses to maneuver people into a dependent relationship with him. In this way, Trump has gained power over millions of Americans and also has supporters outside the US who are stuck in his web.

Identity of success
Before Donald Trump became president, he was a not-so-successful businessman. He has gone bankrupt six times and has managed to save his skin every time. Several journalistic investigations have been conducted into his actions. This reveals a bond with, among others, the Russian oligarchs and Wladimir Putin. I won’t go into detail about that. There is a link between Trump and Putin and you can tell by his behavior and rhetoric.

When Trump was elected as US President, he was given an identity of a successful person. That was exactly what he needed. Someone with a narcissistic personality disorder has no idea who he really is. He has discarded and ignored all the qualities that were detested in his life in order to survive mentally. A narcissist is a victim of his upbringing in which he was never fully accepted just as he is. His good, or praised, qualities are the only image he has of himself and the other part of himself is locked away in the basement of his subconscious as wrong and undesirable. If he encounters it in someone else, he will ridicule or otherwise punish him.

A parasite
A narcissist has (significantly) reduced empathy and cannot sympathize with others. He killed a part of himself so there’s a wound there. In order not to feel the emotional pain, the narcissist must cut off the connection with emotions. He is not whole and needs the (positive) opinion, the reflection of a mirror image, of others to have the idea of ​​being a complete person. He is a parasite in social interactions. This is at the expense of the ability to connect with others. A narcissist is in fact very lonely and in order not to feel that, he demands loyalty from the people around him, confirmation of his superiority and success. When he loses, he takes on the role of victim or brave fighter to get people on board and help him become successful again.

The narcissist prefers to choose people around him who are gifted but have little self confidence. He borrows/steals their qualities and gifts and copies them to achieve success and make himself more important. Due to the other person’s lack of self-confidence, he can make him/her insecure by being demanding, criticizing and pretending that the special qualities and achievements are his own. And the other person must then try harder for respect or even to earn the relationship (working relationship, friendship, love relationship, president and minister).

Losing the 2020 election was a disaster for Donald Trump and he handled it like a true narcissist. He has denied the results, accused Democrats of election fraud and mobilized his supporters to ensure he wins the next election and regains his rightful place in the White House. He found all kinds of supporters who helped him because they benefited from it.

Supporters
The Heritage Foundation has drawn up an agenda based on strict fundamentalist religious values. Their goal is to silence opponents like science and culture, make sure people are not educated and easy to manipulate, health care is phased out so that people are more vulnerable, fearful and malleable, women are oppressed and preoccupied with motherhood. In order to give way to this backward revolution, they have created one for Donald Trump with their own agenda to ensure that he and he alone comes to power. The constitution will be changed, a “divide and rule” policy is practiced and the country will be locked up, all in accordance with the narcissistic script for dependency that suits their desired fundamentalist religious society.

In addition, Trump has the cooperation of the oligarchs, the extremely wealthy. There are reports that he was already indebted to some and that he has something to make up for. In exchange for lowering taxes and destabilizing the legal order and society so that even more money can be made without any worries, they have most likely bought the presidency for Trump. They have invested in the campaign and social media influence.

Algorithms
An important role has been played by Elon Musk, who apparently purchased the Twitter platform specifically for this purpose. He has renamed it X, a medium bursting with conspiracy theories, (Russian) rhetoric and hate speech under the guise of freedom of expression. With the influence of algorithms, certain opinions are expressed much more freely than others. Opinions that fit the Apartheid ideals of Musk’s home country South Africa. Money isn’t Musk’s only motivation. Another story that I am not going to delve into now.

Twitter was already Donald Trump’s playground for his narcissistic playbook. Musk ultimately enabled him to manipulate a large part of the young (male) generation of first voters through the manipulation of algorithms. The MAGA movement has grown in size but also in depth of narcissistic manipulation thanks to Elon Musk.